When the researchers analyzed the data they gathered on the couples, they saw clear differences between the masters and disasters. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender identity formation. In the first phase, 25 outreach workers visited a total of venues in 32 different New York City zip codes.
But they have rules: complete disclosure, honesty about all encounters, advance approval of partners, and no sex with strangers — they must both know the other men first. Cultural value orientations, internalized homophobia, and accommodation in romantic relationships.
For example, for a couple with no consensus about which sexual behaviors are acceptable, any risky behaviors with outside partners that might occur may go unreported within the relationship, effectively severing a valuable, risk-reducing feedback loop.
In her years as the pastor of the Unitarian church in Rockville, Maryland, Lynn Strauss said she had grown accustomed to a thin wedding roster: some years she might perform one or two services; other years, none. By contrast, gay men outnumber lesbians by about two-to-one among survey respondents.
In particular, issues like same-sex marriage may be viewed as less important by this group, and transgender adults appear to be less involved in the LGBT community than are other sub-groups.