Many of the stories of bad behavior Lundquist hears from his patients take place in real life, at bars and restaurants. Zoosk has a desktop version, but the site is better suited for millennials using the smartphone app. Well, I am sure that some people that use dating sites are there only for sex.
You can still send a message -- it just won't show up in the recipient's inbox unless you match. While other sites like OkCupid , Tinder, and Bumble have a robust free option that allows you to read, send, and receive messages, Zoosk does not.
However, i've also been told that they have revamped it and it's way better now. This place is horrible to meet women! Most dating sites make you pay to do literally anything besides signing up.