It can sometimes take several message before you realize the person you're speaking with is way too into Harry Potter. Details to remember: HER is totally free to download. OkCupid also collects really interesting data about users on their OkCupid blog.
When I was on the apps in the late aughts, queer women could barely be found. Help us tell more of the stories that matter from voices that too often remain unheard. Aside from a dating app, HER also acts as a sort of Facebook group for the queer community: Go to local events, find new LGBT movies to watch, bash the government, and connect with anyone who shares a post you like.
I've never felt comfortable or like I could be myself which is why I understand you and thousands of other gay men like us don't like being in "the scene. This doesn't mean the haters don't have a point, but in general, the quality of people you find on Tinder is no better or worse than you'll find anywhere else.